Well-being: Learning to be kind to oneself
Trendy concept or genuine philosophy of life? For some time now, kindness has been at the heart of the debate: at work, in relationships, with children… What if the first person we should show kindness toward were ourselves?
In January, New Year’s resolutions are in full swing, along with calls to become “a better version of yourself.” Making an effort and correcting a bad habit are both commendable, but beware of excessive perfectionism. At Omnisens, we believe that “taking care of being well” begins above all with accepting yourself as you are and showing yourself kindness.
WHAT IS KINDNESS?
HOW CAN YOU BE KIND TO YOURSELF?
Being kind to yourself: easier said than done? And yet, it is essential before thinking about being kind to others. Letting go, not seeking perfection at all costs, paying attention to your emotions, and respecting your limits: all are ways to accept yourself as you are and, in turn, radiate well-being around you.
5 TIPS FOR SHOWING YOURSELF KINDNESS
1. LEARN TO SAY NO
2. LISTEN TO YOUR EMOTIONS
3. ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE IMPERFECT
Wanting to improve is good, but beware of excessive zeal. Mental load, an endless “to-do” list, and societal expectations: every day, it is easy to submit to pressure and standards that are simply impossible to maintain. And above all, no one but you is asking you to uphold them! So be realistic about your flaws as well as your qualities, accept the former, and make the most of the latter. Let’s make this clear once and for all: perfection does not exist in this world!
4. CONGRATULATE YOURSELF
Why is it so easy to focus on our failures when every day we are responsible for just as many—or even more—successes? Whether the achievement is modest or significant, do not overlook self-congratulation. Take the time to reflect on the difficulties you have overcome, and congratulate yourself on reaching your goal: a great way to boost your self-confidence and assert yourself more easily.
5. SHOW YOURSELF COMPASSION
When your best friend confides in you about her problems, do you immediately conclude that she is responsible for them? Certainly not. And yet, it is easy to apply this shortcut to our own difficulties. Next time, try talking to yourself as you would to a close friend. What words would you use to comfort her? What advice would you give her? You deserve just as much gentleness and empathy as the people you love.
3 EXERCISES TO PRACTICE SELF-KINDNESS EVERY DAY
IN WRITING: KEEP A JOURNAL
Every day, take a few minutes to write down a positive emotion you experienced that day, along with the context. Pride, joy, excitement… Everything counts, and this habit will make it easier to focus on the positive aspects of your life when you are feeling down.
OUT LOUD: COMPLIMENT YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR
We spend a substantial amount of time in front of the mirror every day, so why not use it to practice this simple exercise? Out loud, compliment yourself as if you were speaking to a friend. There is no need for a lengthy speech; a small compliment will be enough to boost your self-confidence for the day.
IN PRACTICE: TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!
Although being kind to yourself mainly involves introspection, do not neglect your body either! Taking an hour to pamper yourself, leaving on a moisturizing mask, or treating yourself to an at-home massage are all ways to care for yourself as you would for someone you love.
What about you? What are your tips for showing yourself kindness? Feel free to share your advice in the comments!
