Well-being: Learning to be kind to oneself
Trendy concept or true philosophy of life? Lately, kindness has been at the heart of the debate: at work, in relationships, with children… What if the first person we should show kindness to is ourselves?
In January, resolutions are common and the calls to become “a better version of yourself” abound. Making efforts, correcting a bad habit: all of this is commendable, but beware of excessive perfectionism. At Omnisens, we believe that “taking care to be well” starts above all with accepting yourself as you are and showing kindness to yourself.
WHAT IS KINDNESS?
HOW TO BE KIND TO YOURSELF?
Being kind to yourself—easier said than done? Yet it is essential before thinking about being kind to others. Letting go, not seeking perfection at all costs, paying attention to your emotions, and respecting your limits: these are ways to accept yourself as you are and thus radiate well-being around you.
5 TIPS TO SHOW KINDNESS TO YOURSELF
1. LEARN TO SAY NO
2. LISTEN TO YOUR EMOTIONS
3. ACCEPT BEING IMPERFECT
Wanting to improve is good, but beware of overzealousness. Mental load, endless to-do lists, societal demands: every day, it’s easy to submit to pressure and simply unattainable standards. And above all, no one but you expects you to meet them! Be realistic about your flaws as well as your strengths, accept the former, and make the most of the latter. Let’s say it once and for all: perfection does not exist!
4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Why is it so easy to focus on failures when every day we achieve just as many—if not more—successes? Whether the accomplishment is modest or notable, don’t skip self-congratulation. Take time to reflect on the challenges you’ve overcome and congratulate yourself for reaching your goal: a great way to boost your self-confidence and assert yourself more easily.
5. SHOW COMPASSION TO YOURSELF
When your best friend shares her problems, do you immediately conclude she is the cause? Certainly not. Yet it’s easy to apply this shortcut to your own difficulties. Next time, try reasoning with yourself as you would with a close friend. What words would you use to comfort her? What advice would you give? You deserve just as much kindness and empathy as those you love.
3 EXERCISES TO PRACTICE KINDNESS TOWARD YOURSELF DAILY
IN WRITING: KEEP A JOURNAL
Each day, take a few minutes to note a positive emotion you felt during the day, along with its context. Pride, joy, excitement… Everything counts, and this habit will help you focus more easily on the positive aspects of your life during a low moment.
ORALLY: COMPLIMENT YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR
We spend a substantial amount of time in front of the mirror every day, so why not use that time to practice this simple exercise? Out loud, compliment yourself as if you were speaking to a friend. No need for a long praise; a small compliment is enough to boost your confidence for the day.
PRACTICAL CASE: TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!
While being kind to yourself mainly involves introspection, don’t neglect your physical body! Taking an hour to pamper yourself, letting a moisturizing mask sit, or even giving yourself a home massage are all ways to take care of yourself as you would a loved one.
And you, what are your tips for showing kindness to yourself? Feel free to share your advice in the comments!
